Love conquers all??

Never understood when in the movies they'd say 'i love you but that's not enough... I always believed that if u find love u can never fall out of it and can never truly love another person. . How can u truly love someone and not move heaven and earth to be with the person? yesss i had the 'love conquers all' syndrome. My song with my first boyfriend was 'love will keep us alive' for god's sake. But then how do you know when ur in love?I've always wondered about that..every time i'm in a relationship i think i'm in love but then when its over and i do eventually get over it i think that couldn't have been 'it'. How can you get over love? .

I believed that there was 'one' person for you and when u find the person everything would fall into place. i guess that's why i've always worked so hard at my relationships..take all the shit cos i thought that's what you have to do.not take shit but the better or for worse thing. But how do you know u feel that way about a person cos of the person or cos you've invested soo much into the relationship that you just think its the best. Its like at work when you do everything on a project..u'd never think at any point during that time that its crappy cos uv done everything on it. We get so caught up in the motions that u can't even see that its not love..its not that deep emotional connection..its a project that ur working on and i just want it to succeed. Its amazing how we get so blinded...the blinders are so good that u don't know where to draw the line between compromising and taking crap.

But as i grow older I've begun to realize how difficult it is to believe in that movie love...and i guess its a good thing..ur expectations aren't so high..u don't bail when it doesn't turn out like that. the reasons why i like someone have changed so much..now i need to look at practical stuff too cos i can't afford to take chances anymore and i want to look at 'forever'. Have a crush on someone only after you find out if everything else fits and there is a possibility of it working out..god that's so sad. What happened to spontaneity and impulse and that feeling in the pit of your stomach?

But its sad when u have to let that go..settling cos the time is 'right' or rather time is 'up'. so how do u know if ur feeling like that about someone cos u have to and ud better cos its your best bet or cos u really feel that way. The worst part is...its not just you, u know the other person might be feeling that way too, and we waste so much time worrying about how the other person feels..find it so difficult to trust someone when they say those words..it becomes so hard to believe that someone actually wants you cos of 'you' and not cos of circumstances..and we just don't let the person in. that's scary cos u might lose something really good...like in the eagles song You better let somebody love you, before it’s too late

I want to still keep believing..i want to feel..i want to think that 'love conquers all' I want to believe that someone will say to me like in the dire straits song -'I'll love you like the stars above I'll love you till i die'..Do i feel like this only cos i haven't found the right person and I'll 'just KNOW' as i've so often been told?

Is it better to just keep living in my fantasy world or face reality or make the fantasy my reality somehow. How?